Don't black men date black women anymore?

Okay, I'm sure I am opening a HUGE can of worms here. But you know what, so what? I'll say this much before I get started. I am not on here to offend, only to speak my mind. I can appreciate people of all races, so please don't assume that I am a racist. I just have a greater appreciation for my own race and am just a little concerned.

Now, where do I begin? How about with 'The Real World'? I could not believe the glorification of drunk white girls this season, well let's face it, every season. It seemed that the black male cast members could not enough of the white girls. So does that mean that there are no black women in Hollywood? Or do these particular black men only like white women? I don't know. But this seems to be a growing trend in the media. I am no hater, not by a long shot. But it is a little disturbing when I think about how many decent, intelligent black women there are in this country looking for decent, intelligent black men. It just seems to me that black women- dark black women in particular- are just not shown the love that is deserved.

This takes me even further into the topic at hand. When did women from the motherland become not attractive to black men? I believe it happened when we started to forget where we came from. Don't get me wrong, black people come in all shades, shapes, etc. However, there seems to be a greater deal of emphasis of beauty put on those who are lighter skinned with 'good hair.' My friends who fall into this category know that I love you and think you are indeed beautiful. I'm just saying, does this mean that I am not just as beautiful with my coal black skin and 'nappy' hair? Hell no! First of all, beauty comes not from the outward but from the inward. Secondly, there is nothing ugly about black, no matter what shade. We should all appreciate blackness and African heritage, for it is where we all originated. Yet, the media has caused many of us to hate it and avoid it all costs.

I believe we all have a right to date whomever we choose. We just need to start putting more thought in to it (myself included). When you get some free time, do a little research on black women. Learn about our strength and courage and more importantly, our struggle. You just may have a whole new appreciation for us.